As children, we loved ourselves unconditionally. We were carefree, naturally trusting in ourselves and our abilities. The world was a playground, and our inner dialogue was filled with joy, curiosity, and self acceptance. But over the years, through societal expectations, external criticism, and our own insecurities, we often lose touch with that unwavering self-love. We forget what it feels like to appreciate ourselves in all our imperfections.

The Natural Self-Love in Childhood

When we reflect on our childhood, it’s striking how unreservedly we loved ourselves. A young child doesn’t constantly question: “Am I good enough?” or “Do I meet expectations?” They live in the moment, acting with confidence. We took pleasure in who we were without self-judgment.

This inner security and acceptance is what made us appear so authentic and carefree as children. But over time, we are born into a world filled with comparisons, demands, and judgments. We begin to question ourselves and measure up against others, which separates us from the original source of self-love.

The Challenge of Adulthood

As adults, finding access to self-love can be difficult. The pressure to find our place in the world, the expectations of career, appearance, and performance, can cause us to become disconnected from ourselves. Often, we are so busy taking care of others or focusing on external achievements that we forget to care for and love ourselves.

How Mindfulness Leads Us Back to Self-Love

Mindfulness provides a powerful way to rediscover self-love. Through the practice of mindfulness, we learn to live in the moment, observe our thoughts and emotions without judgment, and treat ourselves with compassion. Instead of criticizing ourselves for our “failures” or “flaws,” we begin to see ourselves with the same care and love we would offer a friend or a loved one.

1. Awareness of the Present Moment: Mindfulness teaches us to be present and experience moments without distraction. We realize that, in every moment, we are enough just as we are, without comparison or evaluation.
2. Self-Acceptance Without Judgment: Instead of constantly questioning ourselves, we understand that mistakes are a natural part of life. Mindfulness helps us approach ourselves with compassion, without criticism.
3. Gratitude for Ourselves: Through mindfulness, we learn to be grateful for who we are, what we do, and how we grow. This gratitude strengthens our self-trust and fosters healthy self-love.
4. Healing Through Compassion: Mindfulness leads us to love ourselves, even in our darker moments. We learn to treat ourselves with the same kindness and care we offer others.
   

Conclusion

Self-Love was naturally and easily accessible to us children. With the practice of mindfulness, we can activate and reclaim this source of self-love.

By learning to accept and appreciate ourselves in every moment, we create space for inner peace and a life in balance.

It´s never too late to return to self-love.

Through mindfulness, we can restore our connection with ourselves - just like when we were children, and the world was filled with love and innocent.